What does burnout actually feel like?

Burnout is often mistaken for stress or simple exhaustion.

But burnout is more persistent, more layered, and often harder to recognize — especially for high-functioning adults who continue to “push through.”

So what does burnout actually feel like?

More than just being tired

Burnout isn’t only fatigue.

It can feel like:

  • Waking up depleted

  • Brain fog or poor concentration

  • Loss of motivation

  • Irritability or emotional numbness

Rest may help briefly, but the exhaustion quickly returns.

Everything feels heavier

Tasks that once felt manageable start to feel overwhelming.

You may notice:

  • Increased procrastination

  • Decision fatigue

  • A constant sense of falling behind

  • Reduced confidence

Even small demands can feel draining.

Emotional changes

Burnout often affects mood.

Common experiences include:

  • Feeling detached or flat

  • Heightened anxiety

  • Unexpected tearfulness

  • A sense of “what’s the point?”

Positive moments may feel muted or distant.

Strain on relationships

When emotional energy is depleted, relationships can feel harder to navigate.

You might feel:

  • Less patient

  • More withdrawn

  • Easily overstimulated

  • Guilty for not feeling present

Connection may begin to feel like effort rather than support.

High-functioning burnout

Many people with burnout continue meeting responsibilities.

Outwardly, things appear fine.

Internally, they feel exhausted, disconnected, and stretched thin.

This disconnect can make burnout difficult to acknowledge.

Burnout is not a personal failure

Burnout is typically the result of chronic stress and sustained pressure — not weakness.

It frequently affects capable, conscientious individuals balancing demanding roles.

Recovery involves more than rest

Healing burnout may include:

  • Understanding underlying stressors

  • Re-evaluating boundaries

  • Processing emotional exhaustion

  • Rebuilding energy and self-trust

Therapy can provide space for this work.

If this feels familiar

Burnout, stress, and emotional exhaustion are increasingly common — especially among adults balancing demanding roles and chronic pressure.

If you’re feeling persistently depleted, overwhelmed, or unlike yourself, therapy can help you regain balance and clarity.

Get in touch here.

Ali Margulius Counselling

Therapy for burnout, stress, and anxiety in Vancouver & online across BC